How to Tell Your Family You’re Eloping
You and your fiance are planning an incredible elopement. You just know it’s going to be an amazing experience-one that you feel is the best way to start your marriage off with. While you’re excited about it all, there’s that nagging question in the back of your mind. How do you tell your family you’re eloping?
Understand that this probably won’t be an easy conversation to have. Keep in mind that while everyone is entitled to their feelings and opinions, it’s ok to communicate that you want to do something different than a traditional wedding that they may be expecting.
While you talk with them, do your best to be open, communicative, and make peace with the idea that not everyone is going to understand why you want to elope.
Let’s start with openness and communication.
Being open with your family will give them the opportunity to show their love and support for you. Eloping is a beautiful way to share an intimate experience together, but it doesn’t mean your family can’t be included. Maybe let them throw you a reception or have a registry so that they can get you gifts. You could even call them the morning of your elopement to pray together. Get creative and think of some way to make them feel like they’re a part of your special day.
Your family is likely to be supportive of your elopement if you communicate your plans in a respectful way. Reassure them that their relationship with you is priceless. Communicate to them that you respect and honor their feelings, and that you look forward to deepening your relationship with them as a married couple.
Realize that not everyone is going to understand the draw and appeal of eloping. Some family members may not like it, and may even ask you to reconsider-remember that they’re ultimately coming from a place of caring. They just want to be included in your life! Respecting and reassuring those who don’t understand why you want to elope will communicate to them that they are important to you, and that they hold value in your life. You’re being courageous and vulnerable with them by sharing your plans, and that takes a lot of heart.
It’s my sincerest hope that your family will support your decision to elope, but if they don’t, know that there is so much strength and value in choosing something that you both feel is best for you-especially since you’ll continue to make important decisions together for the rest of your life.
It’s my sincerest hope that you and your loved ones will be able to have a conversation full of courage, kindness, and understanding. Know that I’m here, cheering you on!